- What was your view of unplanned pregnancy before?
My view was that this event was a game changer for the people involved. One minute you think you are heading in a certain direction and have plans for what you are going to do, be involved in, etc.; and the next moment all that changes and you now have a responsibility that most likely you are not ready for.
- How did you feel when you found out?
Disappointment. I actually said to Olivia what I wrote above: “Whatever you thought you were going to do in the next few years that has all changed. You just took a right and you are now headed in a totally new direction.” Olivia and I had a rocky relationship at this time so I was concerned for her because I didn’t think she could do this on her own and she was not in a place where she would ask me for help.
- When did these feelings start to change?
I started out wondering if it would be better for our daughter to let a good family adopt the baby but over time, we were more excited to bring this baby up as a family. It doesn’t really feel like our daughter is a single mum because we are all bringing up the Squish. When I had that talk with her siblings and we all had that feeling I started to get excited about the new adventure.
- Did the church support you in your new role as a grandparent?
At this time we were starting to go to a new local church, so we didn’t really give the previous church a chance to go through this with us and the new church didn’t know our family yet. I will focus on capital ‘C’ Church. We were already in the process of applying to a one-year Bible college when our daughter found out she was pregnant. I called the school to speak with the director and told him about the situation. They accepted Olivia for a semester, and it went really well. Her heart warmed and she was really receptive to God’s word. It was a great move to have her go to that school during that time.
- Besides the addition of a new member – how has your family changed?
I don’t really know. We always have been close, and I didn’t think any of us would distance ourselves from this situation. We came around Olivia and supported her in caring for the Squish very naturally.
- Has your view of unplanned pregnancy changed?
I still do believe that an unplanned pregnancy will change your life forever but that needn’t be a negative thing. A new person in our family has been a huge blessing and we couldn’t imagine being without him.
*Olivia’s name has been changed for the purposes of sharing her story.
One minute you think you are heading in a certain direction and have plans for what you are going to do, be involved in, etc.; and the next moment all that changes and you now have a responsibility that most likely you are not ready for.-
A new person in our family has been a huge blessing and we couldn’t imagine being without him.-